TIMELINE WORK

Themes

• Survival
• Abandonment
• Emotional Neglect
• Mother Wound
• Father Wound
• Lack of Safety / Protection

Story Arcs & Key Events

• Moved to Barbados (2)
• Sibling born in 1986 (2.5)
• Divorce / Separation from Mother (3)
• Remarriage (5)
• Moved 8 times before the age of 7
• Moved to Boston (7)
• Moved to Montreal (12)

Highlights

• Visiting Mom
• Visiting ma tante Sylvie et les cousins
• Playing Soccer
• Libraries and Books
• Spending time with Grandma
• Playing with computers; learning DOS; building websites
• Movie Nights

Challenges / Friction

• Rageaholic Narcissist Abuse (Scapegoat)
• Living in fear, walking on eggshells
• Love used as a weapon of control
• Lack of security, connection, affection, support
• Can't use voice: mocked, belittled, attacked, criticized
• All identity + power taken away
• Learning Disability (Math)
• Molestation at Daycare (4)
• Sexual Grooming / Sexual Violence (11-14)
• Severe bullying at High School and at home
• Sexual Assault (14)
• I snapped and dared to talk back, resulting in being dismissed from the family and 'home' (15)

Lessons & Meaning

• The world is not a safe place
• Survival of the fittest / dog-eat-dog
• Love has to be earned
• Be polite, respectful and kind at all times, to everyone
• Life only rewards those who work hard and take advantage to get ahead
• Without status, money, or power, you have nothing, are doomed to be taken advantage of
• Emotions are a sign of weakness, they must be masked
• I am a 'problem child' with behavioural issues, punishments are my fault and for my own good
• I have to earn and prove my worth
• I will always have to work harder than others, because I am weak and lack discipline
• I must override all needs, emotions, and physical sensations
• I am too much: too loud, too emotional, too sensitive, too needy, too dreamy, too rambunctious, too naive

People & Relationships

• Grandma Joan

Body / Health / Environment

• Severe allergies
• Asthma / Croup
• Weak Immune System
• Overuse of Antibiotics
• Right ear boxed, permanent damage

Tags

• Survival
• Childhood Trauma
• Sexual Trauma
• C-PTSD